talking to others, In dealing with others, Islam has created some rules that should be obeyed by a Muslim, it should always be firmly convinced that he should be accountable for what he says and he will be rewarded for good words and punished for evil.
In verse 18 of Surah Qaf, Allah Almighty says that which means, “He does not utter a word (small), which is reserved for the sake of … an ever-guarded watchman is not attached to him.”
The Prophet (PBUH) warned us that it is very dangerous that it is very dangerous. According to Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, in a Sahih Hadith narrated in the Reva, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “A person may say something that is pleasing to Allah, and he does not think too much about it, but Allah gives importance to it and the end for that He is pleased with him on the day of judging. And a person speaks that it is disliked to Allah but he does not take it seriously, but Allah Subhanah will be angry at him on the last day of judgment. ”
Conversations can be dangerous. So we will try to control it by the guidance of the Islamic Rule, Allah, and His Messenger. Here are some ways to control speech:
1. The purpose of your talk should be great and beneficial. If you are unable to speak well, then you should adopt silence, because it is good for you. In a Sahih Hadith narrated by Imam Bukhari and Muslim, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in God and the Day of Judgment should be good or keep silent.”
2. Strive to be truthful and refrain from lying, because the believer is always truthful and does not even resort to lies while trying to do fun. The Prophet (peace be upon him), narrated in Bukhari and Muslim, says: “You will speak the truth because the truth leads to honesty and honesty leads to Paradise. The person who always speaks the truth and holds the truth, he is considered to be truthful with Allah. Stay away from lying, because the false direction leads to evil and brings evil to the way of hell. Whoever stays in falsehood and intends to lie, he is regarded as a liar with Allah. ”
3. Be careful while talking jocus, be careful not to disobey God by your words of cheating or wholly, because God hates disobedience, curse. Unobtrusive talk is the kind of speech that reveals disobedience to God, and cursed speech is to curse others, not give up, and hurt others. That is why the Prophet (PBUH) warned us in a Sahih Hadith: “The believer does not blame anyone, does not curse, does not disobey Allah or cheat others.”
In another Sahih Hadith, he says: “Curse for a Muslim is involved in disobedience.” Curse of the dead is prohibited as it is forbidden, and the curse on the living is also prohibited. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has forbidden us to say: “Do not curse the dead, because they have passed through their earthly deeds.” In another Sahih Hadith, he has forbidden us to say: “Always talk about the dead.”
4. Refrain from Gibeah (liberation) in somebody’s absence (say something about him in his presence that he gets hurt) and do not be cowardly against one another. Do not refrain from saying Namimah (this is the talk of spreading hatred towards one another), because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in a Sahih Hadith: “The person who practices the Namimah cannot enter Paradise.” Without hearing it, Be persistent. Because, if you do that, you too will be a partner in their sins.
5. Refrain from taking the oath without requiring. Allah Subhanawada says, “Do not use Allah’s name as a shield for your oath.” (Surah Al-Baqarah: 224)
6. Talk to your knowledge and skills and do not talk about what you do not know. Allah says: “Do not fall behind him (unnecessarily) on which you have no knowledge. (Surah Al-Israel: 36)
7. Speak up confidently Do not say what you hear without verifying or confirmation because you can hear truth and falsehood and truth and doubtful speech from others. If you listen to what you hear, then you will be the sharer of sin. In the Sahih Hadith, the Prophet (PBUH) warned us thus: “It is enough for a person to commit sins, so he preaches, which he hears.”
8. Explain the purpose of the story to be clear while talking to others, to ensure that your point of view is to reach the truth and to express lies. And do not be enthusiastic about whether you or someone else has reached the truth or whether it is false.
9. Refrain from being involved in any necessary argument (whose main purpose is to defame others or win over others). Because the purpose of the fasting is the sign of a stray (we want to have a path from Allah). For this reason, in a Sahih Hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, the Prophet (peace be upon him) has warned the mother: “They have gone astray, despite receiving guidance from Allah, because they were involved in unnecessary reasoning.”
Avoid discussing unnecessarily, though the truth is in your favor. In another Sahih Hadith narrated by Imam Abu Daud, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “I guarantee a house surrounded by a paradise for that person, which does not cause unnecessary debate despite being correct.”
10. Make your statement clear and refined, and avoid the uncomfortable words and avoid unnecessary speech, and do not say anything that could disturb others, because the Prophet (PBUH) used to hate this kind of speech. In a Sahih Hadith narrated from Tirmizi, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “I hate those people, and on the Day of Resurrection, they will remain the most distant from me, who speak unnecessarily and condemn others and those who show respect when speaking.”
11. Make your speech understandable, clear, audible, and understandable to others. The Prophet (PBUH) used to repeat the words three times to make sure that it was understandable, but his speech was easy so that everyone could understand.
12. Do not be ridiculed: Be sincere in talking and do not make much mockery, and if you do, then the Prophet (PBUH) will be as truthful as it is.
13. Do not disturb him while talking to anyone and keep listening until he completes his speech, and later on, he can make necessary and important aspects of the good and beneficial aspects of his speech, not that you will talk unnecessarily.
14. Talk and debate well, which is lost to harm, injury, loss, and ridicule to others. All such ambassadors have been ordered by this kind of speech. At the time of sending Moses and his brother Aaron to Pharaoh, Allah said: “When you submit your guidance, you will speak humbly with him, lest he accepts your advice, or he will fear me.” Taha 44)
So you are not better than Moses or ‘Haroon (peace be upon him), or the one with whom you speak is worse than the Pharaoh.
15. Do not completely exclude someone’s statement only because you have found a combination of right and wrong and truth-lies in his speech because truth should not be excluded even if it is mixed with something that is independent of independent. Truth should not be excluded even if it is also mixed with falsehood. You will accept the truth and the correct statement and only avoid evil and falsehood, and that is the fair order of God to us.
16. Stay away from over self-confidence; Do not present yourself as a supplement or a decision in front of a person, because it is the result of arrogance, which Allah has forbidden us to do, through the verse 32 of Surah An-Najm, “Therefore do not provoke your hypocrisy. He knows well who is moderate. ”